Every day, when I check Facebook, there’s an ad on the side of the screen promising, “one crazy trick” to six-pack abs, packing on muscle, or dropping fat, and that “I won’t believe it!” You might see these ads, too, and hopefully you’re are just as skeptical I am. But I started thinking about it and there is a crazy trick to reaching any and every health and fitness goal. It’s simple. It’s easy. It works. And it’s free. Everyone who is successful relies on it, but no one talks about it in magazines, because the industry doesn’t want to you to know how great this secret is… It’s having an accountabilibuddy!
You know and I know that change happens in dedicated communities. AA, the Marine Corps, book clubs, and gym buddies are all examples of people who come to together in order to support and keep each other accountable to a new, higher standard. It’s FREE and it works.
Here are my tips for finding an accountabilibuddy.
1. Find the Arena You are not the only one struggling to put yourself out there and make hard choices. There are others out there just like you. Your friends who are all sick of the endless yo-yo dieting, other moms in your community, even some people on your facebook.
2. Let go of perfect Because it doesn’t exist. I’m going to get this out of the way now—you’re not going to be perfect. You’re going to struggle. “When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena… we squander our precious time.Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience,” says Brené Brown.
3. Be open Being accountable and being ready to change means being open. It means being open to eating new foods, trying new activities, and trying really hard to do something amazing in full public view. But that is the only way change happens. So be open to new friends. New ways of thinking. New ways of looking at yourself, your body, and your choices.
4. Prepare for adventure Risky, courageous, bold, and new, the journey you will take with your Accountabilibuddies will not be comfortable, but it will be well walked. Millions of people every year choose to change their health and lifestyle choices, and there are 65 million of them here on FaceBook.
5. Offer to be someone else’s accountabilibuddy The scariest part of asking for help, for most people, is the fear of being vulnerable or appearing needy. So instead of asking for help, offer it. You don’t have to be a genius or a professional to be helpful. You just have to be a good person going through the same thing as someone else. You’ve probably noticed that most of the suggestions I have made for finding your Accountabilibuddies are not external, but internal. That’s because I’ve noticed that most of the friction in finding people to help keep us accountable does not come from other people.
Most people are more than happy to help, and we know where to find other people who share our struggles. Much of what keeps us from finding the help we need, is that we simply never ask.
I am part of a group on FaceBook full of people that are holding each other accountable.The Awesome Health Advocates Group(AHA for short) is an informative, judgement-free, super fun, and most importantly safe environment to ask questions and share stories of personal struggle or triumph with weight loss and weight management. MANY of the members of this group know what it’s like to struggle with weight in some form or another so don’t be bashful to share or ask questions, you may be surprised at what you find. Whether you’re looking to lose five, 50 or 150 lbs, please use this group as a sounding board and support structure to help inspire you to get over life’s next big hurdle!
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