When I first started my weight loss journey, I was fixated on the scale and what number I was at. It seriously consumed my life. Yes I was losing weight but if I was up a pound I was going to run 1 mile further and cut back just a little bit more at dinner. It got quiet extreme to say the least. I needed to get over this psychological pull the scale had on me. So, I threw it away!
I started what were called “non-scale” victories. Pants fitting better, running up the stairs at work with out getting winded, chasing my son around the yard and being able to keep up with him, buying a smaller size in shirts, etc.. Once I put the fact that the number on the scale didn’t define my weight loss journey, I felt A M A Z I N G! I was healthy and living a life I could keep up with.
I had a hard time getting passed the idea of being skinny. Up until 8 months into my journey I realized I was the healthiest I have ever been in my entire life. Yeah I was a smaller size but I wouldn’t consider myself “skinny” and I’m okay with that!
When going through this psychological journey I figured out why I got healthy. Here are my views on why you should and shouldn’t get healthy:
Why should you get healthy, and stop focusing on “being skinny”
You SHOULD NOT get healthy so that you can impress other people.
Don’t make it about other people because it has nothing to do with them. It’s not their bodies and it’ll have no effect on their lives at all. You must do this strictly for yourself — to make yourself proud. If someone else has a problem with how you look, is that really your problem? It’s something in someone else’s mind, something he or she has to carry around and something that’s much more revealing of his or her poor character than anything about you.
You SHOULD NOT get healthy to make yourself happy with how you look in the mirror.
I realize this will always be part of it, but what most people don’t take into account is that no one is fully and truly happy with how he or she looks. We all harbor things about ourselves that don’t satisfy us and that we’d like to change. This isn’t a physical problem, it’s a mental thing. That’s how you have to tackle those issues. Don’t wait to become happy with yourself after you reach your goal weight — work on accepting yourself right now. Being happy with yourself has nothing to do with losing 15 pounds and everything to do with inner self-confidence. That’s not something avocados and squats will bring into your life.
You SHOULD NOT get healthy because you feel guilty, ashamed or pressured into it.
That’s where I started, and it got me nowhere. It made me afraid of trying new workouts because I worried I would look stupid. It made me fearful of asking for help because I might get judged. In short, it made my efforts almost pointless because I was getting nowhere with them. When I decided to let go of the shame, the fear and the guilt, I started to see results because what I was doing became a lot more effective. I asked for help, and I received it — more of it than I could have ever imagined! You don’t have to do this alone and you should never feel embarrassed about going to the gym or asking that super-healthy friend for tips and tricks. They want to help and they want to see you succeed. If someone at the gym is giving you a little side eye, doesn’t it just prove he or she is a pretty awful person and you shouldn’t care what he or she thinks?
You SHOULD get healthy to feel good.
I know everyone says it, but does everyone mean it? You will notice a change if you do it right. You will have more energy, your skin will be clearer and you will be, in some measure, happier. Doing good things for your body is also good for your mind, and that should be a cause for excitement!
Finally, you SHOULD get healthy to impress yourself.
Quit worrying about impressing and comparing stats with anyone else who is also getting fit. What would impress you? Set goals for yourself: strict, written-down goals and then, surpass them. Do better than you did last week. Make your only competitor yourself and dazzle yourself at every turn. My only competition is me. Examine your reasons for setting your current fitness goals. Make sure they’re healthy and effective and most importantly, take good care of yourself because you absolutely deserve it.
Once you get passed these couple of things you will feel so much better. You’re changing your life for yourself. That’s it.
Don’t know where to start? Message me. I’d love to help you find a program or fitness schedule that would work for you!